Your will says what happens.
A Letter of Wishes explains why.
The document that gives context to your decisions - and clarity to the people you love.
Letter of Wishes Workshop · 2 hours · £50
📍 In person or online · Small groups · Hertfordshire
There are an estimated 10,000 disputes relating to wills and the division of estates every year in England and Wales.
The number of will disputes reaching court rose by over 5% between 2023 and 2024 - and is still rising.
Most disputes involve blended families, second marriages, unequal gifts - and decisions that were never explained.
A Letter of Wishes doesn't prevent a dispute. But it gives your executor context, your family clarity, and your decisions a voice - long after you're no longer here to explain them yourself.
A Letter of Wishes costs nothing to write. But without one, the people you love are left filling in the blanks at the worst possible time.
Here's what you'll cover in 2 practical, supported hours
What a Letter of Wishes actually is - and what it can and can't do alongside your will.
How to give context to difficult decisions - unequal gifts, exclusions, blended families, estranged relationships.
How to keep your will simple but your guidance detailed, personal and up to date.
Step-by-step prompts so you leave with notes started and a clear sense of what to write next.
Common mistakes executors see - and how to avoid leaving the same confusion behind.
Here's what you'll leave with
✔️ The Your Final Matters Letter of Wishes Guided Writing Framework - a structured guide covering every section your letter needs
✔️ A personalised prompt sheet to work through at your own pace
✔️ Notes and a first draft started in the workshop
✔️ Prompt sheets to revisit whenever your circumstances change
✔️ Confidence to keep writing - and clarity on exactly what to include
The Guided Writing Framework - your biggest takeaway
Most people sit down to write a Letter of Wishes and don't know where to start. What do you include? How much detail? What if the decisions are complicated?
The Your Final Matters Guided Writing Framework takes you through it section by section - context for your main decisions, guidance for your executor, personal wishes that go beyond the legal document.
Combined with the prompt sheet, you leave with a clear structure, notes already on paper, and everything you need to complete it in your own time.
Who it's for
- Anyone with a will who wants to give their executor the context they need to carry out their wishes properly.
- People with complicated family situations - blended families, estranged relatives, unequal gifts - who want to explain their decisions without conflict.
- Executors who've seen first-hand how hard it is when there's no guidance left behind.
- Anyone who wants to leave something personal and meaningful alongside the legal paperwork.
- Adults supporting an ageing parent who needs help getting this written down while they still can.
"This workshop was a detailed, step-by-step guide to preparing your final matters so that when your time comes, you leave clarity, not chaos." - Sim Malin
Hello! I'm Caro Syson
I'm the founder of Your Final Matters. I created this workshop because I've seen what happens when a will exists but the reasoning behind it doesn't.
Executors spend hours second-guessing decisions. Families fall out over things that could have been explained in a paragraph.
A Letter of Wishes is one of the most personal and powerful things you can leave behind. This workshop helps you write it.
What people say after attending ...
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Frequently Asked Questions
If you have a question that is not answered below, feel free to reach out for more information here.
Ideally yes but it isn't essential. A Letter of Wishes can sit alongside an existing will or be prepared in advance of having one written. If you don't yet have a will, this workshop will also help you understand what you need to put in place.
No - and that's actually its strength and the beauty of it. Because it isn't a legal document, you can write freely, update it easily, and include personal guidance that a formal will can't accommodate. Your executor isn't legally obliged to follow it, but most do.
This workshop is especially useful for complicated situations - blended families, estranged relatives, unequal gifts. The prompts are designed to help you articulate difficult decisions clearly and compassionately.
No - it's practical, guided support to help you draft your own Letter of Wishes. I'm the affordable first step before the more expensive appointments with your will writer.
Yes - you can book a 1:1 session for more individual help, or join the Justin (Case!) Podcast Club for ongoing monthly support.
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